Most children are usually very open during their first years of life, but as they grow they begin to develop their personality and create their group of friends, in a way that they become more withdrawn and distant. At this point, we must strive to maintain a close bond and fluid communication with the little ones since otherwise there could come a day when they would practically become strangers living under the same roof.
Many parents think that knowing their children well is an obligation that is part of their parental role, but in reality it goes far beyond a simple responsibility. It is important to keep in mind that although blood ties unite, it is the daily interactions and the affective bond that actually build a solid relationship that withstands the passage of time and the conflicts that will inevitably come.
Caring for children and taking an interest in what they think, want, and feel is a way to validate and support children’s ideas, feelings, and wishes, which will reinforce their self-esteem and self-confidence. Also a way to help them clarify their thoughts and / or feelings since by taking an interest in them, you motivate them to reflect on different aspects of their life. In turn, it is an excellent strategy to identify their strengths and weaknesses, and help them manage them in the best possible way.
Taking an interest in knowing your children is also another way of letting them know how much you love them and how important they are to you, at the same time that it opens the door to establish a more open and sincere communication, which will lay the foundations for maintaining a good relationship with as they approach adolescence. In addition, it is a great opportunity to rectify on the fly the mistakes that we may have made during the education of our children, focusing on offering them what they really need.